distance

When someone distances themselves from me, I, for a time, wonder why. I wonder if I did anything to offend them, or to hurt them.  When I was younger I used to worry about things like that till I finally had a chance to talk with the person or they just come back around like nothing was ever wrong.  I would wonder if I did anything to offend them, or to hurt them. And I could never think of anything, but I would still feel like it was my fault, that I must have done something to make them pull away.

These days, I only wonder briefly because I know the person I am. I treat people well, even those I don't agree with. So when someone decides to clam up and distance themselves from me, I know it is them, not me.  That whatever issues they have, they are their issues, their problem, not mine.

Does it hurt when someone just stops communicating?  I would lie if I said it didn't. But at the same time, I've had plenty of emotional pain in my life to know that it won't last.

"It's better to feel pain, then nothing at all. The opposite of love is indifference"

It is sad though, that a person just shuts their friends out without explanation, but again, it's their perogative to do so.

I am too old to chase after people who don't want to communicate.

What I will do is be patient, but at some point I sever the bond between us.   If the person comes back when they are ready, good. If not, my life goes on.   I miss them, but a wise person from online, someone I connected with back in 2012 , told me never to base happiness on someone else.

A true friend will never leave forever. They always come back.

Much love,

Lia

Me, back in 2012 

A text conversation with my youngest daughter

For those of you who in the past enjoyed reading our weirdness, yes I admit and embrace my weirdness and her's too for that matter.  🤭

A little background. My daughter and son in law would like to go back to Idaho when he gets out of the Air Force in September. (It hardly seems he has been in for six years!)  I myself, would love to live there, at least for part of the year.

So this morning I was thinking about it and decided to check the price of land in various parts of Idaho.

Later I was texting with my daughter (ugh, I hate texting) . What follows is our conversation for you all to enjoy, or if you can't enjoy it, at least try to laugh, because some of you are a little too grumpy. Laughter is medicine!

Me: I was looking at land in Idaho earlier.  For the very small sum of 61 and a HALF million dollars, we can buy 31,122 acres of land in McColl with no house.

Bri: Well I was all for 61 but they had to throw the HALF in there!

Me: Maybe we can make a deal with them.

Bri:  I wonder if  they would take an offer of 15 bucks and some chik-fil-a sauce because I have that.

Me:  You never know unless you ask.  Nothing ventured, nothing gained they say.

Bri:  LOL, having my people contact their people asap.

Me: I'm so excited! But if that doesn't work out, we might consider Montana. You can get four times as much land for less.  126,000 acres for 55 million.

Bri: Someone will take my offer. It's one not many could refuse.

Me: Ok, but if it all falls through, we can get 20 acres near Mountain Home for 45 thousand. We can build two houses, one for me and one for you guys and it wouldn't cost much because they would be rock houses and rocks are plentiful in Mountain Home. There are random rocks for the taking all along the highways and roads, remember? 

Bri: Oh yeah!  The only thing we would really need to buy is the mortar to hold the rocks together.

Me:  Exactly! And in the meantime while we were building the houses, we could get one of those old rusty trailers in the Mountain Home junkyard and live in it till the houses were finished. And everytime there was a windstorm the whole place would be coated in dust, inside and out.
 (This is a story an old couple out in Mountain Home told us about their first house being a trailer back in the 50's and how it was always coated in dust because of the windstorms. They told that same story everytime we saw them.)

Bri:  Mom, that is the most soundproof plan !  But WAIT! Why spend money on expensive mortar when there is squeeze cheese?  It is air tight, anti-mold, and stronger than industrial mortar!

Me: Ok, here is the plan. I will sell this house so we can pay cash for the land. While we are waiting for the house to sell, you and  Jon can buy a can  of squeeze cheese each week. When Jon gets out, the military moves you that one last time, they will just have to get a bigger truck to haul all the squeeze cheese. Well, I guess you won't have that much cheese at one can a week, but it is a start.

Bri: But wait!!!!  I can contact the squeeze cheese company and tell them of our endeavor.  They will donate squeeze cheese for the cause and word of this will cause a big stir in the social media world bringing them more business and hits on their website.  There is also the peanut butter toast and mango route, but I feel this would be hard on the body creating enough to hold rocks together and ultimately a lot stinkier than going the cheese route.

(There is a story here too which involves the bathrooms at the beach and peanut butter and mangoes, but we will not go into that here!)

Me:  LOLOLOLOL I can't stop laughing here (because of the peanut butter and mango story)
 You know, this plan could work.  Because if the land is paid for, and the rocks are plentiful, and the squeeze cheese is donated, we would have a house free and clear, or two houses if we get enough cheese. No one would have to work because we could get seeds with some of the house sale money and plant a big garden, and Jon could hunt for our meat, and we could have chickens for eggs. 

We could become cattle rustlers for one night and steal one of the cows from that dairy farm thats not far away.  No one would miss it because they had so many cows all crammed together in those corrals and barns, that one gone would never be noticed. We might have to sell some of the eggs and produce and milk to pay the taxes. But other than that, we wouldn't need money because we would not have electricity, just oil lamps which I can start buying from the antique store here in town.

And for furniture we could just gather all the junk from all those yards in Mountain Home and build our own furniture. It would be the rustic look. And we would be performing community service by cleaning up the town!  

We would have a hand pump for water, and a big tin tub to bathe in , or maybe one of those bathtubs people have laying amongst the junk in their yards.  And of course an outhouse.


Bri:  Okay, but we could have electricity. Basically we just get a bunch of whistle pigs and have them run in a wheel to generate electricity.

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So that was the end of our conversation because we were both laughing so hard we couldn't type anymore !







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Wonder

When I'm gone

don't wonder

where I have gone

don't wonder

why I left

don't wonder

who I am with

don't wonder

what I am doing

don't wonder

when I will return

And please

don't wonder

if I love you

Because

no matter

where I am

no matter

why I left

no matter

who I am with

no matter

what I am doing

no matter

when I return

You already know

like

you have always known

So don't wonder

except to wonder

when you gaze 

at the stars

in the night sky

if I am gazing 

at the stars 

with you.

Lia 

End of G+

From what I have read, they intend to end Google+ sometime in April.  This makes me wonder about the fate of Blogger, whether they will do away with that at some point too.

I joined a site called MeWe, which seemed pretty good until a couple of days ago when I was slammed with fake friend requests, I assume were bots?  I don't really know what a bot is lol, but whatever.  I checked several of the profiles and they had nothing on them and now I can't log in to my account there, so I don't think I will bother with that place.

Instead, I will cross post to Wordpress which actually has a better notification system and it seems reliable.  I don't post there very often, but I always get the notices when someone else posts.  So once I start writing again, and I WILL start lol, I will be cross posting to my wordpress site also as a backup for Blogger.   

I will post a link to it once I start.   Other than that, I am done with so called "social" media.  I am not social, but I do like to blog 😉

Have a great day everyone. Lunch hour is almost over and I need to get back into the office to fix the mess that was left for me.

Lia